Hey people!
I was recently asked on a date. There was an age difference so finding a spot to blend in and chat was not easy: I wanted a discreet location, but meeting in someone's home becomes a bootycall. Anyway we were able to find a busy bar where we wouldn't be noticed. As the evening progressed we turned to naughty talk. I soon learned that my date likes to spank young boys and verbally insult them: being a rough dom is a turn on for him. I made sure I sounded open to the idea but I had misgivings.
Let me share them with you guys. First and foremost, will a man still respect you if you let him do that to you? I'm no prude in bed but I'm uncomfortable with losing the power dynamic. What's the guarantee that a guy you let dominate you in bed won't eventually get abusive outside the bedroom?
What do you think? And how do you manage your public dates?
Spank!
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Making Manjam work for you
Brethren,
Today's post is going to be about getting successful in the market.Since our trading floor is manjam (I'll talk about facebook/twitter later), getting laid or finding a partner require canny steps. Here's a list of what to do and what to avoid when you're joining manjam and out to meet new guys!
1. Find a place to host. Move out of your parent's house(if you don't get enough space there)/get a friend whose house/room you can do it in. Since most of us are young this is a difficult but very important step. It also prevents you from being robbed/blackmailed when you go to Egbeda to meet some guy.
2. Take an attractive picture of YOURSELF that plays to your strengths. it could be a chest/abs pic, a hot underwear pic, half your face, your nice legs/arms etc. Show some skin, but not your face (keep the mystery). Also, no penis/ass- hole shots. A little bulge/hip is great, but full on nudity means DESPERATION.
P.S. No one on Manjam really looks like this:
Today's post is going to be about getting successful in the market.Since our trading floor is manjam (I'll talk about facebook/twitter later), getting laid or finding a partner require canny steps. Here's a list of what to do and what to avoid when you're joining manjam and out to meet new guys!
1. Find a place to host. Move out of your parent's house(if you don't get enough space there)/get a friend whose house/room you can do it in. Since most of us are young this is a difficult but very important step. It also prevents you from being robbed/blackmailed when you go to Egbeda to meet some guy.
2. Take an attractive picture of YOURSELF that plays to your strengths. it could be a chest/abs pic, a hot underwear pic, half your face, your nice legs/arms etc. Show some skin, but not your face (keep the mystery). Also, no penis/ass- hole shots. A little bulge/hip is great, but full on nudity means DESPERATION.
P.S. No one on Manjam really looks like this:
Or this:
Or this:
Don't be fooled. We won't be either.
3. No Contact Details on your Profile. Don't put your phone number or KIK/BB pin on your blurb, or use it as your username. In fact keep it off your profile. it shows you're an exclusive bitch, and stops anyone from wearing you Kito.
4. Be clear where you live. Epe is not on the island, please. Ajah is Ajah. Ajegunle is not Apapa. Thank you. And if you're in Ogun state say Ogun. Karshi is in Nasarawa, not Abuja.
5. This is the big one: NO PLEAS/CRIES FOR LOVE on your profile. Even if you're the relationship type (side-eye , you're probably lying) keep your About me/What I'm looking for free of your insecurities and baggage. Instead put out 2/3 CONCRETE condition or deal breakers. If you're a total bottom or top, say so. If you only like teenagers/want money for your services(yuck), say so.
"i want honest/caring guy "/ "I want love"/I'm not sure what I'm looking for"/ "Be Attractive and muscular" are all crap. A few specific conditions are best.
6. Don't be online all the time. It spells DESPERATION.
Tomorrow: How to know who's for real on MJ. Who are the gays on facebook?
Sunday, August 25, 2013
HERE AT LAST
I've realized there's no blog catering to Naija TBs, giving us the info on how best to update our MJ profiles, sort out the willing from the wankers on BBM and whatsapp, and keep our tea on the low. So, here I am.
I'll be keeping you up on the latest (who Denrele /D'banj is chasing) while answering your questions and providing PSAs (how not to beans the dick, and how to pace the bottom). Feel free to reach me at naijatea@gmail.com with topics etc.
Before I sign off (and get back to watching White Collar/ The Only Way is Essex): I 'd like to leave a few words on an issue I've been thinking about: religiosity amongst naija tbs. Our Muslim brothers are pretty clear that they are sinning, even though they usually think they are not too bad if they only top. I'm not surprised, but what do you make of the argument that bottoming (being penetrated) is an abomination, but topping isn't that bad? Is that just latent misogyny/sexism? Share your thoughts in the comments.
I must admit that most of my surprise on this topic are the gays who are Choir masters, Fellowship leaders and Youth Counsellors etc, especially in pentecostal denominations(COZA, I'm looking at you). No shade but if you're getting it up the butt or having men blow you how can your relationship with the Church be healthy? Is it delusion?
Let me know! See you tomorrow.
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